“Label Feelings” in The Whole Brain Child Book

Validate the child’s feelings without judgment

Validating a child’s feelings without judgment is a crucial aspect of nurturing emotional intelligence and fostering a secure attachment bond, as discussed in “The Whole-Brain Child” by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson. Here are steps to effectively validate a child’s feelings:

1. Active Listening: Give your full attention to the child and listen attentively to what they are expressing, both verbally and non-verbally. Maintain eye contact, nod, and provide verbal cues (e.g., “I see,” “I understand”) to indicate your presence and engagement.
2. Reflective Statements: Mirror back the child’s feelings by paraphrasing or summarizing what they have shared. Use phrases like, “It sounds like you’re feeling…” or “I hear that you’re upset because…” This demonstrates empathy and shows the child that you are understanding their emotions.
3. Normalize Feelings: Assure the child that their feelings are valid and normal. Let them know that it’s okay to feel the way they do, and that all emotions are acceptable. Avoid dismissing or belittling their feelings, even if you don’t fully understand or agree with them.
4. Empathize: Put yourself in the child’s shoes and try to imagine how they might be feeling in…